When planning a
bridal shower, it can be difficult to decide the proper etiquette to use so as
not to hurt anyone’s feelings or offend your guests. You don’t want to upset
the bride or any of the guests by planning an unorganized bridal shower. Here
are some common bridal shower etiquette questions and answers to help you plan
the perfect bridal shower.
1. When should the
bridal shower be?
is customary to have the bridal shower about 1-2 months prior to the wedding,
but this can also be a hectic time for the bride and her family, so make sure
to see what date is good for her.
2. Who should be
invited the bridal shower?
most important rule of bridal shower etiquette to remember is that anyone who
is invited to the bridal shower must also be invited to the wedding. Bridal
showers can consist of as little at 5 people to as many as 30. Just remember to
invite people that are close friends of the bride. You might want to ask both
the bride and groom’s mothers if they know anyone special to invite. You can
also discuss with the bride if she wants to only invite girls or have a couples
3. Who throws the
the maid of honor plans the bridal shower along with the bride, but it is also
ok for the bride’s close friends or family to host the shower.
4. How long should a
bridal shower be?
bridal shower should not last all day long. A bridal shower is traditionally
around 2 to 4 hours long depending on games or planned activities. You should
include the start time of the shower in the bridal shower invitation.
5. What information
should be included in a bridal shower invitation?
need to include the date, time, location, directions, and contact information
for the bridal shower. You may also wish to include other information such as
the theme of the bridal shower or any special
instructions. Send the invitations about 4-6 weeks before the shower, and have
the guests RSVP within 2 weeks of the bridal shower. When addressing
invitations, make sure you address one invitation per guest even if they live
in the same house.
6. What type of food
should be served at a bridal shower?
do not need to serve a full meal at a bridal shower. It is traditional to have
simple finger foods or appetizers such as chips and salsa. You could also serve
fruit trays, vegetable trays, small sandwiches, or cocktail weenies. Also,
wine, cheese and crackers, and desserts are great for bridal showers.
Who pays for the bridal shower?
is customary for the maid of honor to pay for the costs of the bridal shower if
she is the host. This is one of many of the maid of honor's responsibilities.
It is also common for the bride’s family or bridesmaids to help cover some of
the costs of the bridal shower.
8. Should favors be
given at a bridal shower?
bridal shower favors are not necessarily a
tradition, it is a nice way to show your guests that you appreciate their
attendance. Bridal shower favors do not need to be expense or elaborate. They
can be something simple such as a candle or a small package of candies.
9. Should I send
thank you notes to bridal shower guests?
you should always mail out notes to thank your guests for coming and for any
gifts they may have given you. When writing out bridal shower thank you notes,
make sure to list the specific gift that person gave you and how much you enjoy
it. You should mail out the thank you notes soon after the bridal shower so
that they will receive them within 2 weeks.